Seven Sexy Crystals And How to Use Them For Better Intimacy

Did you know there are crystals out there for hot sex? If you’ve ever tucked a piece of tiger's eye in your bra before a job interview or rested purple amethyst on your chest to soothe a broken heart, we’re into the same kind of metaphysical witchcraft. Turns out, “There is plenty of fun to be had with crystals in the bedroom,” says Energy Healer, Michael Cardenas, head witch in charge over at Olde Ways, an internet hub for mysticism, crystal consultation, magical services, and apothecary goods. Cardenas’ background in Peruvian shamanism draws on the power of crystal healing, and he isn’t shy about sharing how to use crystals to get down.

When it comes to the crystals that light a fire in the bedroom, Cardenas suggests looking for specimens that represent the shape or nature of that which you’re looking to attract. For intimacy purposes, “Selecting a phallic or yonic-shaped crystal is a good way to signal what you’re looking for,” Cardenas explains. For inspiration, check out Chakrubs, a hub for crystal dildos and stimulators that come highly recommended by Cardenas. But you don’t have to be quite that literal about it. There are plenty of crystals that simply offer properties that improve your sex and intimacy, simply by their pressence on your bedside table or under your pillow. For this witch’s recommendations, read on! 

Shiva Lingam

Shiva lingam attracts nontoxic masculine energy, according to Cardenas. “I suggest clients put this crystal by their bed to bring out positive masculine energy in their partners and/or themselves. It’s a strong beacon for powerful sexuality but it also draws in your protectors to safeguard you from negative energy too.” Cardenas says he kept a piece under his mattress for a personal experiment and was quickly greeted by the secure, intense, encompassing masculine energy he sought. 

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To light a fire, consider Carnelian, full of radiant hot energy that invites the lower chakras to the party. “Carnelian brings creativity and passion, great for increasing sexual energy, and unlike other energizing crystals, it’s less likely to keep you up at night,” says Cardenas. Because it evokes courage, it’s a handy stone to place in the room perhaps at the onset of a new relationship or encounter. Cardenas even suggests holding it near your heart or at the pulse of your wrists if you’re nervous to send that risky sext.

Tigers Eye 

Not just for professional prowess, “Tigers eye can help you gather your sexual power,” says Cardenas. “Its protective qualities boost self-confidence and feelings of self-worth, making the bedside a great spot for tigers eye to ward off threats to your sex life or relationship.” A perfect use case for this protective, success-driven stone is to place it under the bed before embarking on a threesome, as it will help you hold your energy, protect what’s yours, and enjoy the pleasurable moment for what it is. Tigers eye also makes for a great hype crystal if someone is new to dating or the world of one-night stands. Keep this success-driving crystal close and any sexual newbie will become a pro in no time. 

Rhodochrosite 

Known as a soother in the world of gems, “I think of my rhodochrosite as my emotional support crystal,” Cardenas teases. “Pink for love, black for banishing negativity, rhodochrosite is a stone that balances our energy. If you’re trying something new, whether it's gender exploration or a visit to a sex party, this is the crystal to give you a pep talk,” Cardenas explains. This is because the crystal’s properties help us balance ourselves, keep our body, mind, and heart in check and stay in charge of our own emotions. If it feels right, have that fun rendezvous with a stranger, rhodochrosite will be there for you on the other end and help you cut things off if or when you’re ready.

Clear Quartz

To pump things up, “Nothing amplifies your libido like clear quartz,” says Cardenas. Because clear quartz works like an amplifier for all sorts of things from prosperity to longevity, it can serve as a spark plug for sexual desire. To increase any type of energy, particularly libido, Cardenas suggests intentionally programming it for exactly what you need. To do so, he recommends cleansing it with a saltwater soak, rinsing it with cool water, and placing it on your pelvic area. Then speaking your intention into existence by saying something like, “I program this crystal to bring me sexual pleasure and fulfillment. I anchor my pleasure and orgasms now. So be it.” This kind of grounding ritual isn’t required, but Cardenas and other energy workers recommend intention-setting when it comes to drawing out the metaphysical properties in crystals.

Lepidolite

One of the most effective crystals for stress relief, “Think of this stone as your personal healer,” says Cardenas. “This world is full of sexual trauma and in order to have good sex in the present, we could all benefit from healing past experiences.” He suggests placing your soothing, calming lepidolite on any part of your body that could use some TLC before you get busy, and be intentional. “Say out loud what you want to heal. After each use, cleanse it with salt water and rinse it with cool water.” This way, Cardenas explains, “Anything the stone draws out can be cleansed and released so it’s not holding on to any negative energy it helped to clear.”

Citrine

An orgasmic stone, “Citrine calls in abundance and positivity so it can help manifest a physically fulfilling partner or relationship,” says Cardenas. To manifest enriching and satisfying sex, he suggests placing the stone on your pelvic area and visualizing the type of person or type of pleasure you want to draw in. If you’re so inclined, this is a good time to have a solitary pleasure session in which you focus on manifesting all of your desires as you orgasm. “Citrine’s confident, positive vibes help inspire you to boldly ask for what you want without being ashamed of it,” he says.  

When it comes to incorporating crystals into sex or any other part of everyday life, Cardenas reminds us, “Crystals are most potent when their direction is clear, so be intentional about your selection, placement, and treatment of your crystals in order to bring the greatest benefits to your life, in and out of the bedroom.” 

The first time I ever went on a Hinge date I brought my only crystal, a matchbox-size piece of labradorite to protect me from the inside out and help harness my intuition. The date wasn’t a success but every time something felt awkward, I tapped my pocket and reminded myself I’d get through it. I’ve since learned to date like an enthusiast and incidentally become something of a crystal fangirl. In doing both, I’ve cultivated a semiprecious stone collection from selenite for clarity to rose quartz for compassion that each gives me a sense of guidance and reverence when it comes to my romantic life. Hopefully, this post encourages you to do the same. Good luck out there!

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